A mourning period, a time of sadness to reflect on pain and loss, is normal, but at a funeral, for instance, you don’t need to all be weeping to “Amazing Grace” and wishing Grandpa Cankle godspeed. If he was a happy man in life, celebrate his death. Tell funny stories. Put on his favorite obscene puppet show. Show that super-8 film of him and three hookers in Saigon. Whatever he would have liked.
Our sadness comes from a sense of loss, but there’s just as much precedent to experience joy when you reflect on what you had and what made that person so important to you in the first place, and in the end, you’re likely to feel better making death a final celebration of all the experiences you did have, rather than a lament of all the ones you won’t.
They once were blind but now they see. Which begs the question â what exactly do people see when they gain sight for the first time? Often, it’s terrifying.